February 29, 2008


Posted in Uncategorized tagged , at 11:08 am by Molly


For the most part (a few minor freak outs excluded) I think Mitch and I are really enjoying planning this wedding. At least I am. The DIY projects are moving right along and the stress levels have been relatively low considering how much is going on. I think that speaks well of our future marriage as well.

However, we are now at the flowers stage of the game and I couldn’t be less thrilled. This is probably going to be my least favorite part of this whole process. I’m not really that interested in flowers. I mean sure, they’re pretty and smell nice and brighten up a room, but they also die, and in my hands they die faster than most. There is just so much about these little things that I don’t understand. People seem to plan their weddings around their favorite flowers and have exotic ones flown in from overseas and the like. (Perhaps I’ve been watching too many wedding shows on the WE network though). I just can’t imagine being that attached to a certain flower and willing to pay top dollar for it. Can’t I just pick some from a neighbor’s garden that day?

All kidding aside, I’m just a little nervous about being raked over the coals here.

I am taking my Mom/MOH with me to play bad cop (or maybe she’s the good cop). Also we can always fall back on the “well, i’ll have to run it by my fiancee first, he holds the money you know” haha. Mitch will be enjoying himself snowboarding while all this is going on.

I HOPE to get a fairly good deal on flowers. We are not having floral centerpieces so right there I think we’re cutting a good chunk of cash out. (more on what we’re actually doing for centerpieces later) I just want to get bouquets – for me and the gals, my mom, Mitch’s mom (spoiler alert!) and the grandmothers. I am choosing to do smaller bouquets for the MOG and Grandmothers instead of corsages. Just cause I like the idea. Then boutonnières (i have totally learned how to spell that) for all the groomsmen, Dads and Grandpas. That should be IT for flowers. My estimated budget may be too small for all that, but I’m going to see what creative things people can come up with to make it work.

They’re just flowers people!

As for appointments we have three over the course of the weekend. Appointment #1 is with the recommended florist for our venue – Windmill Florist in Fitchburg, MA. We spoke briefly with them at the tasting we went to a few weeks ago.

Appointment #2 is with Beyond Petal Pushers in Westminster, MA. This is in the same town as our venue and I just found them during a Google search for florists. We will meet with Gwen.

Appointment #3 is on Sunday with a woman my Mom knows. I guess she used to work for a florist and now does flowers for weddings and probably other events on the side. She is going to get some books to my Mom for us to go through and then we will sit down with her Sunday morning. I’m really looking forward to this one. I’m guessing we would get a more honest price from her than a commercial florist that hears “wedding” and instantly doubles their prices. I guess we’ll see though. Maybe flowers are just way more expensive than I think they are.

I honestly can’t believe how much people spend on flowers for weddings. I just can’t imagine having this as one of the bigger percentages of our budget. It’s one thing if you have a $40K budget and spend $3K on flowers, it’s quite another to spend $3K on flowers when you have a $15K budget. I just want to get this part over with and check it off the list to be honest.



  1. Mitch said,


  2. Mike Johnson said,

    Probably too late, but I figured I’d mention that one of the women that runs Hartman’s Herb Farm (where we’re getting married, and about 30 mins from where you guys are getting married) does flowers and is doing ours. I know next to nothing about flowers, but she seems to do a great job. I can put you in touch if you want to talk to her.

  3. Molly said,

    Mike – depending on how things go this weekend I may be in touch for more details. Thanks!!

  4. Joe Mioux said,


    I am a professional florist. Most florists I know conduct themselves in an honorable manner. They will offer fair prices and good service.

    You just have to find one.

    Be careful selecting a “florist” who works out of their home. They have to purchase flowers in bunches and will charge you for the full bunch even if they only use 2 flowers out of a pack of 25.

    Also, note if you choose certain flowers like Asiatic or Oriental Lilies, some home based florists may need to purchase a lot more bunches just so you have open flowers for yoru bouquets.

    That could easily add and extra $200 to your wedding bill.

    Go with a reputable, established locally owned flower shop for your wedding flowers. They won’t overcharge you flowers that aren’t used.

    Joe Mioux
    Mioux Florist & Greenhouses

  5. Lori said,


    You are right that flowers do die, however they are just as neccesary as jewelry for accents. Your pictures will be more memorable with the flowers. They add color, texture and interest to them. At the reception they add ambiance and fragrance which adds to the whole felling of your wedding.

    When you are shopping for a florist, make sure your work with a real, professional florist that you hit it off with. You do not need to get exotic flowers flown in from rare parts of the world. Your flowers can be understated and elegant, but need to be there to complete the decorations of the day. They will complement your beautiful dress, just as icing and sugar flowers make a cake exquisite. I wish you luck in finding the perfect florist for you. Be honest about your budget and how you feel about flowers and they will help you through your choices.

    Lori Kunian
    Affairs to Remember Florist
    Melrose, MA

  6. Hi Molly,

    I love your comment about ” being that attached to a certain flower and being willing to pay for it” and I appreciate that sentiment.

    I am a professional florist and I know I am supposed to SELL flowers, but I always tell my brides to remember that while it is an important day, it’s still just one day. Some brides could put a down payment on a house for what they spend on flowers. I prefer a bride to set a realistic budget, and then my job as a professional is to come up with the best that I can for the money you give me to work with. Don’t be afraid to tell your florist up front, how much you want to spend. And be realistic, don’t expect diamonds if you are only willing to pay for rhinestones. lol! If you tell her up front, that you’re not that into flowers, and that you have a small budget in mind, she’ll appreciate that and she won’t waste her time trying to show you things you’re not interested in, she will like the fact that you are being up front.

    As for a florist inflating the price, if you feel they are doing that, find someone else to deal with. Florists are some of the nicest people around, and we do this job because we care and we love it. It’s true flowers aren’t cheap, but they add so much grace to life!

    Good luck with your wedding, it will be lovely, I’m sure.

    Brittany Flowers of Kirkland
    Kirkland, WA

  7. […] I went to him directly and not through a company, he gave me a good deal. And despite what the terrifying, monolithic floral industry would have you believe, you really can get great flowers from an independent florist working out of […]

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