December 29, 2007

First BIG purchase!

Posted in Uncategorized tagged at 12:14 am by Molly

I just bought my wedding dress!!!! EEEEKKK!

I definitely wasn’t planning on making this purchase quite so soon, however, fate had another idea.  While checking on the dress I wanted online I found that it was no longer in the dress section.  I FREAKED out thinking they had discontinued it.  As it turns out it was in the sale section, and this weekend only they were offering an extra 20% off all sale items.

My mind immediately started second guessing itself.  Is this definitely the dress? (I haven’t even attempted to look at another one since I found it of course.)  It was 11:45pm, a little too late to call my Mom for advice… so I called Lisa.  For her sake the story will take place at an all night mall and not online.  After much discussion we decided I should just buy it because I would be upset if it were no longer available and PLUS I got an AMAZING deal on it!

So, one HUGE thing crossed off the list and I will have my dress well ahead of time.

I can’t believe I just bought my wedding dress at midnight on a Friday night. Nuts.

– Molly


December 21, 2007

Our Second Appointment

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , at 12:39 am by Molly

We have made our second appointment to look at another venue!

We will be checking out the Wachusett Village Inn in Westminster, MA.   The high points of this venue are that there is lodging right on site for both us and our guests, which would be very convenient.  It is right off of Route 2 which would make it very easy to get to.  (We drive by it on our way to my parents house all the time and I’m pretty sure we’ve commented on it several times before we were even engaged).  It seems like a really nice place, even though I’ve never actually been inside.  There is also a spa on site which would be nice for me to fulfill my dream of getting a massage before my wedding.

The pricing seems to be within our tentative budget, so we’ll just have to see if there are hidden charges on top of what we were quoted per person.

I’m really excited about this venue! I hope my feelings stay that way after we look at it.


December 19, 2007

Our First Appointment

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , at 2:58 pm by Molly

We have scheduled our first appointment to see a possible wedding/reception venue.

On January 12th we will go to see Blissful Meadows in Uxbridge, MA. We have an appointment with Melissa at 1pm.

I’m really looking forward to this place because I feel that we will be able to do certain things that we really want and it seems, so far, to be within our tentative budget. There are at least three other places I’d really like to look at, so I’m hoping we can find time to see them all in January and then be able to come to a decision by February.

The thing about all this is, how do you really judge the difference? All the places we’re finding are the typical “cookie cutter” wedding venues. This in’t a bad thing, but it would be nice to do something unique. A nice park, or barn or orchard that doesn’t necessarily cater to the wedding crowd. The thing about that is then we would have to bring in outside vendors to handle everything. I’m not sure we’d be saving much money in the end and it would be a hell of a lot more work.

There is something to be said for having someone take some of those things off of your plate.

It’s all happening…


December 15, 2007

Rejected wedding themes

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , at 11:37 pm by Mitch

I have the impression that women spend most of their single lives daydreaming about their wedding day, down to the detail. Maybe this isn’t the case, but the stack of bridal magazines accruing in our apartment doesn’t suggest otherwise. Myself, I never really thought about it. Getting married always seemed like one of those inevitable life events that happens to everyone sooner or later — a physical part of aging, like gray hair (in fact, I’ve recently found one of those on my head, too!). Why waste energy thinking about it before it happens?

Well, that’s not quite true. I did have this vague notion that my wedding would be different, somehow, than most. That I’d reject traditional mores and come through with the most innovative and hilarious wedding concept the world had ever seen. Any schmoe can put on a tuxedo or a white dress and mumble some vows. I wanted to wow people. Unfortunately, in my imagination there was never another person with veto power over my ideas. Here are just a few of my brilliant ideas that have already been rejected.

Theme: Goth wedding
Signature Moment: I am standing at a black altar wearing white face paint and black lipstick. My groomsmen are dressed in Druidic robes. A minor-key rendition of “Here Comes the Bride” plays on a synthesizer as four pall bearers carry a coffin down the aisle. They place the coffin upright next to me and the lid falls open. Molly is inside, painted as a corpse. I hand her a bloodied cow’s heart. She takes a massive bite of the heart to symbolize her internalizing of my love for her. Guests are invited to hail Satan.
Why It Was Vetoed: Molly is a vegetarian.

Theme: Mime wedding
Signature Moment: We deliver our vows in pantomime. These vows include walking through strong winds for one another, pushing heavy boxes together, and being trapped in giant, invisible boxes until death do us part.
Why It Was Vetoed: Marcel Marceau was the only qualified officiant (RIP).

Theme: Superhero wedding
Signature Moment: I am dressed as Batman, my wedding party as the Justice League. As we are introduced at the reception, an actor dressed as the Joker swoops in and steals Molly away. I tie his ankles with a line attached to the Batarang, and then pummel him in a realistic fashion. I later forget to pay him.
Why It Was Vetoed: Molly wanted to be Wonder Woman. Batman would never marry Wonder Woman! That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.


December 14, 2007

My Ladies

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , at 2:14 pm by Molly

Well I have picked my ladies and they have all accepted the challenge of being a part of my wedding. YAY!

Deciding was not terribly difficult for me, as it is for most people.  It is probably easy to guess that my four bridesmaids are JUGS! For those of you who are not familiar with my all female jug band, that means Brina, Kathleen, Lisa and Melanie – all friends/roommates from college.  They are by far some of the greatest ladies in the world! I am thrilled that they all accepted my offer and seem very excited about the whole situation.  Two of them live here in the Boston area, and the other two are in California, so it wont exactly be easy to coordinate, but I’m sure we will work it out!

As for my Maid of Honor, this was a little tougher. This whole time I could only think of one person I would want to have up there next to me and that is my Mom.  She obviously has known me the longest, and is definitely my best friend.  I was waiting to ask her on Christmas, but while we were talking on the phone the other night, it just sort of came up and I couldn’t wait anymore.  She has accepted and will be my Matron of Honor!

One thing down, a million more to go. At least now I have some help. 🙂


December 12, 2007

Registry Fun

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , at 2:40 pm by Molly

According to The Knot, one of the first things we should do as a newly engaged couple is to register for gifts. Now, as a girl this is something I really look forward to. You get that little gun and basically get an adult version of The Super Toy Run I used to dream about as a child. It’s not even about actually getting the stuff, it’s the excitement of it all.

In reality, we don’t want to ask for a ton of stuff we don’t need. We’ve been living together for over a year now, so there are things we already have. My parents got us pots and pans for Christmas last year along with a single cup coffee maker, so we’re really set on a few of the big items. Our plates are mis-matched and we could definitely use more cereal bowls, so perhaps a set of dishes would be a good idea.

Figuring out what to ask for isn’t as hard as where to register. I’ve formed a list of places that we can easily get to. Places like Crate and Barrel, Bed Bath and Beyond, and Target. I’m just not sure if we need to register at that many places. They all have access to registries online which is definitely key in this day and age. However, they all have pretty much the same types of things. (Although, Mitch thinks it would be nice to register for a 24 pack of toilet paper at Target and I can’t say I disagree with the idea). I hear it’s a good idea to register for different types of items at each place. Example: I would hate to get 2 different sets of champagne flutes because I got scan happy and forgot we’d already registered for a set. Would it be weird to take a copy of your registry to another store to make sure this sort of thing doesn’t happen?

Registering is definitely on what I’m calling “The Fun List”. This list is good to go to when other aspects of planning start to seem stressful or daunting. Probably a good place to start.


December 11, 2007

Hang the DJ

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , at 5:09 pm by Mitch

Here’s a question for any readers: how much would you expect to pay for a DJ? We know a couple of amateurs who might be willing to DJ our reception on the cheap, and I certainly don’t doubt their abilities. However, I attend a particular pub trivia game every week and I’d really like to hire the host to DJ our wedding, because I think he’d do a terrific job. He told me he could do it for as little as $500, which sounds reasonable to me. But I don’t know. What’s the going rate for a DJ?


December 10, 2007

Anti-Platinum Wedding

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , at 7:05 pm by Molly

I don’t think it’s any surprise that planning a wedding is expensive. I mean even just trying to put together the basics I can see it adding up quickly. However, I just don’t understand why weddings cost SO much for some people.

Example: I am currently watching the show Platinum Weddings. For those of you unfamiliar with this show, they have couples with unlimited budgets (I’m pretty sure they haven’t had a wedding on here under $500K) and follow them as they plan their weddings. Now, I get the whole “I want to be princess for a day” attitude, it’s not me, but I complete understand wanting this day to be perfect and having a pretty gown and all that. What is now making me angry (as opposed to the laughter it used to bring me) is how these brides are, almost on purpose, picking whatever is the MOST expensive.

This particular couple has a flower budget that is twice what Mitch and I hope to spend on our entire wedding!! (and that’s at our high end of things too!) That just seems unnecessary. This bride has TWO dresses. One for the ceremony and one for the reception. I find it hard enough buying a dress that I will most likely only wear for one WHOLE day, never mind a dress that I would only wear for a few hours.

Now, weddings are a multi-million dollar business, the price of anything goes up significantly when you say the word “wedding” and that’s just frustrating. I want to be able to get around that as much as possible, but it’s starting to seem a very difficult thing to do. I’ve had ideas such as: just telling a caterer how many people and seeing what they charge for that, instead of saying “hey, cater my wedding!”, or finding a place that doesn’t normally do weddings or that weddings are not their main source of revenue so that we would have more freedom and negotiating power with the pricing.

There is something to be said for paying someone to take care of things for you. Just looking for a caterer in the areas we’ve looked in has proven a lot more difficult than I thought, however there are things we want to do that I don’t think the typical caterer would have on their wedding menu.

All I know is, this will not be a Platinum Wedding! However, even if we had unlimited funds I’m not sure I would be imagining a wedding much different from the one that is already in my head. All that is important is that it represents us and that our guests have a really good time. I could care less about linens and things (ha).

Someone please remind me of this when i’m freaking out about colors or something in a few months.


Getting started

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , at 5:33 pm by Mitch

Getting engaged was a gleeful, giddy experience, and the excitement lasted for a good several hours before our thoughts turned to planning the wedding. I think we wanted to simply enjoy the afterglow of the proposal for a couple weeks, but it’s impossible not to start thinking about what song you’d like for your first dance, who’s on the guest list, and which of your dudes to line up behind you.

There are logistics to consider, even this early. We know a few couples who are getting married next year, and we can’t overlap. Two very good friends of mine are marrying each other in the fall. I think we have to wait until they schedule their wedding before we can schedule ours. It’s especially important because he’s in my wedding and I’ll be in his, so we have to make sure we’ve got enough room to take care of ourselves and each other. Maybe it would be a good idea to wait until they schedule their wedding, and then have ours the week beforehand so we get all the attention.

No, probably not.

The only other important thing to note is that, so far, the prices at every place we’ve looked have made me want to throw up in my mouth. And we’ve been looking at the moderately priced sites linked from The Knot. I can’t even look at the expensive sites out of curiosity, because then I might be moved to kidnap Molly and take her to Vegas.


December 8, 2007

Welcome to our blog

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , at 12:23 am by Molly

Hello, Welcome to our blog.  We have started this blog to keep everyone up to date on our wedding plans and also to share our experience with planning a low budget amazing wedding!

We were engaged on December 1, 2007 and plan to get married in the fall of 2008… no date has been set yet.

– Molly & Mitch